The Three Gates

Before you speak, let your words pass through three gates:

At the first gate, ask yourself, “Is it true?”

At the second gate ask, “Is it necessary?”

At the third gate ask, “Is it kind?”

~ Rumi

The great Sufi Poet, Rumi, once postured that when considering speaking allow your intended speech go through three gates first: “Is it true?  Is it necessary?  Is it kind?”

Rumi was on my mind on a recent Wednesday night as Adi and I prepared for our full moon gong bath in Keller, Texas.  Twenty-two aspiring light workers joined together to heal the planet through intentional prayer and the powerful primal sound of the gong.  Whenever Adi and I get the privilege to introduce the powerful healing modality of the gong to a new group of people we always talk about how important language is.  What we say aloud soon becomes a physical reality in our daily life.  Be mindful of the words you choose because one day those words will manifest in physical form that you will have to live with.

I remember a time when, not only did I not know this, I wouldn’t have believed it had someone told me this.  I came to understand that words have power.  Intentions have even more power.  Belief is the most powerful of all.  Words activate our innermost intentions and belief powers those words and intentions to create our very existence.  And much to many people’s dismay and chagrin, planetary alignment has an activating power to coordinate our intentions into existence.  What does this mean?  There truly are times when it is more fertile to start new projects or to simply send healing energy to the world to create a more loving and kind world.

How and where the planets are aligned have an effect on our planet here on Earth.  People will discount this, but the moon affects the tides of the oceans therefore it is nearly impossible that the moon doesn’t affects the tides within our personal beings.  We are connected to the greater Cosmos and the greater Cosmos is connected to us. The moment we recognize the inter connectivity of all things is the moment when we can take steps to create our greatest lives.  When we recognize the unity in all things, we begin to see that a word or action spoken against someone is a word or action spoken against ourselves.  Grace offered to another is grace offered to ourselves.

It was under this auspice that Adi and I held our monthly Full Moon Gong Bath. Twenty-two powerful people (19 women, three men.  These numbers unfortunately are more the norm than the exception to the rule) joined together to do our part in helping to heal the world.  Cynics may say that 22 people can’t change the world, but if no one ever tries then how will we ever know.  Science has proven that whenever a small number of well-intentioned people joined together to send healing energy throughout the world the impact is far greater than anyone could ever expect.  So, we show up each month to do our part and then we all do our very best to remain mindful in our daily lives.

This leads me back to Rumi and the three gates.  I am becoming more and more aware of the negative effects of gossip—not only the gossip spoken about me, but more the “harmless” gossip that I may utter about another.  So often we fall into talking about other people simply because we are uncomfortable talking about ourselves.  Maybe we are unhappy with our own lives, so we project our discontent on to others by talking negatively about someone we love.

Again, it may seem harmless:

“I was just giving an update about what was going on in the family.”

“I’m just telling you about my day at work.”

“Can you believe that he/she did that?”

How many times have you found yourself uttering one of these phrases to justify the gossip that you are spreading?  I certainly have.  No matter how many times I’ve justify my efforts to talk about someone I always feel just a little bit worse for having succumbed to the temptations of gossiping. I am changing the way I gossip now. My “gossip” will elevate those around me:

“Did you hear the great news?  She got a promotion!”

“I’m so proud of him, he just got two A’s and three B’s on his report card.”

“What a wonderful parent they are!”

“Isn’t she so kind.”

If we know that what we say about another is in reality how we feel about ourselves, wouldn’t we want to utter only the kindest and most beautiful things about those we love?

There are three gates our words should pass through before we choose to utter them.

At the first gate, ask yourself, “Is it true?”

At the second gate ask, “Is it necessary?”

At the third gate ask, “Is it kind?”

If your words pass through these gates you can be assured that you are aligned with your Highest Self.  If your words pass through this simple test you will be an inspiration to everyone you encounter.  If your words meet these criteria, you will forever alter every person you encounter. We need only be the gatekeeper to the words we speak, allowing only the most loving and kindest of our words to be heard throughout the world.

This is how we heal the world. 

This is how we become the change we so long to see.  Twenty-two people joined Adi and me—twenty-two people vowed to become the gatekeeper of their words—if each of us encounter ten people a day with our gatekeeper watching over our words then 220 people will encounter a more loving world and if those 220 people watch over their words the numbers will soon affect thousands of others.

Elevate those around you with the things you say.  We have the capacity, through the power of our words, to change the lives of those we interact with.  Our words have power.  Our belief in those words can activate a change in this world that would make Rumi proud.  Be the gatekeeper of your words.

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